Be who you actually are

Hello Fabulous People,

First of all, thanks and love to you all, who like my blog and posts and show their love constantly on my posts. Nothing can bring more happiness to a new blogger like me than seeing such intellect people like you all liking my not so perfect work πŸ™‚

Coming back to the topic, I wanted to write about in this post.

Who are you ?
-The one your neighbors know ?
-The one your relatives know?
-The one your friends know?
-The one the society, you live in, knows?

If you ask me, I am the one who I actually am – FOR EVERYONE.

It may look cliche but for me, if you have different versions of yourself for different people around you then end of the day it’s you who is under burden of behaving differently with different people.
I would rather be myself and perhaps being hated than being someone else and being desired for.

I see people who are under so much pressure just to prove others that they are desired, even though in reality, the ones who they show them as their friends are none other than the ones who bitches most about them and would not even be there in their hard times. I just don’t understand WHY. What kind of peace does it bring?
I would rather have just one friend who stands by me , instead of being with a bunch of people who don’t even care if I am fine.

Social media (though I am very much active on social media), does make things go worse. Everyone is so desperate to “look happy” on their Facebook/Instagram/Whatsapp etc. etc. that they don’t even understand the very fact that they aren’t actually happy inside and it’s all fake on their social accounts.
People don’t even want to talk about their issues and so much under pressure to prove others’ that their life is Oh So Perfect ! But deep down, only they know if what they display is actually true or not.
Ok, so when I was young I used to worry a lot, trying hard to hide my failures,issues, problems reason being – what others would think about it? what if they judge me? what if they mock at me? wouldn’t it impact my image ? and many more such insecurities. As I am growing older and WISER πŸ˜‰ , I understand it doesn’t matter what my relatives/society/neighbors/mates think of me as long as I am HAPPY inside.
Being happy for me, is way more important than “look happy” on my social account.

Did you ever think why the “celebrities” are so open in talking about their issues – be it depression they have undergone once, issues with their health or problems in their marriages or anything else?
Because they are known for their good work, and are hardly affected by how the society judge them. There would always be people posting nasty things about them on their social accounts but do they give a damn about it? or to better put it in this way – do they even get time to have a look at those mean comments there? NO ! Because they are busy doing good for themselves rather than concentrating what the commoners – whose own life might suck, are writing while sitting in a small room, hiding behind their computer screen, are writing.
I was always conscious about what someone would say/write about me in public etc etc, but today I don’t care anymore. I don’t allow people to interfere with my peace. If I have issues, I don’t fear talking about those, I am never under pressure to make things look perfect when they actually aren’t. Life is a journey and we do make mistakes, learn and grow. Nobody’s life is a bed of roses and the harder you try to prove it is, the more frustrated you become inside.

Don’t pretend to be someone else, Be Yourself – I know this might give a feel of a Cliche but trust me, once you reach this maturity level, you would be the happiest.

Don’t try so hard to look happy ,to look desired, to prove yourself the best, to perfect everything is perfect – Be Happy, Be yourself and the ones who can connect will love you for what you are, look beyond the imperfections , embrace the issues and work to come over those.

Love more !

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-Much Love
Neha

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