Relationships in today’s world !

Hi All,

How all of you have been ? I hope healthy and happy 😌

You know, I started writing or came into blogging coz I am an expressive person who really likes to put her thoughts for others without being worried of judgements. However over the period of time, I realized that I am writing mostly when I am feeling the life and the brutal realities from very close. I think I should be more regular about my writing but for now, let’s see what I have to say in this post to you all.

Do you guys also feel sometimes the relationships we are living with in today’s world’s are not as perfect as you once thought them to be. I remember when as a kid and even until I started living on my own, I used to see the close relationships to be Perfect ! But gradually I started to realise everything I believe in, was a myth. People are flawed so am I and those flaw you know when you start thinking neutral, unbiased by what that person is for you.

Yes, I am talking about every relationship be it Mom, Dad, Sister, Brother, Husband, wife, kids – I mean everyone. Forget about in-laws .. for a girl in India specially , in-laws is the forced pair of parents who would never treat her as their daughter but expect her to respect them as her parents. So much of hypocrisy prevails and no girl talks about it. I was also very reserved when talking about all this but not anymore coz pretending is just not me. If a girl who (by God’s grace and her parent’s hardwrok) is earning well, can do every bit for herself and her family and expected to look perfect, expected to look for approvals to spend her own VERY hard earned money then don’t you think there’s something seriously wrong about the society? I think so and I am not afraid to speak about it. I am free, so are my words. I don’t pretend to be a perfect girl, who can carry the burden of proving herself great in all aspects – why should I ? I deny to accept the hypocrisy and become a part of it someday . This had to change.

These are the relationships for which you fight, lie, do all sort of things but the moment you don’t agree to or behave as per their standards – you stand nowhere ?

Please don’t think I feel bad for having these relationships, I am blessed to have all of these people in my life and I can’t even imagine how my life would be without them but end of the day aren’t we all alone, fighting the battle for ourselves ?

I know this may sound disturbing to you if you’re in rosy phase or days of your life and it must do to me also when I am in best of my days but this lockdown has hit the facts hard on my face.

Please do love your people , do more for them than they do for you coz the life is short. People should actually miss you for what you are when you aren’t around – is my mantra of life 🙂

Last but not the least, relationships are must but also do take care of yourself if nobody else does.

If you are feeling low, loads of love and hugs from me . If you’re happy , I pray to God , this never ends for you.

Signing off

– Neha

I am TOUGH, but is that enough ????

Hey Readers,

Hope you guys are doing good and staying healthy.

Do you people ever feel very low and feel like giving up? Well, that’s something that happens when you have been strong for very long, but guess what you need to tell yourself at that very moment ? – “Just hang in there a little more, you are STRONG” !!!!

But is that enough???? Keep reading to know !!!

It won’t be wrong to say, that it’s my mental state as on today while I am writing it, when it has been more than a month and I haven’t stepped out because of Corona Virus outbreak just like you all. I have been doing all household chores (most of them on my own) , handling critical official meetings, managing my 3 years old while taking up the calls – Imagine bathing your kid and attending an official call simultaneously , trying to grow my new venture (my new YouTube channel) and putting so much efforts recording the videos, posting them etc. I don’t have a very solid support system – I stay very far from my parents and it’s been 2 years I met them.

Because of this overwhelming emotional, mental and physical pressure, many a times I felt like losing my cool but I kept pushing myself hard – on cost of my heath and peace, every single day I apply some muscle relieving gel on my back and think I wont work this hard again but next morning I am again pushing myself – WHY ? Because I am that kind of person who doesn’t want her loved ones to work harder and keeps on slogging herself. Result of which is – this volcano eruption that happens within you and you feel like collapsing.

I have realized and so wanted to pen it down for all you working girls/wives/mothers –

1. No matter what don’t work too hard constantly for long or try to keep all your pain inside.
2. Give yourself a break because nobody else gives a damn when you get hurt, it’s your body that pains nobody else feels it.
3. Speak to your favorite people and calm yourself down
4. Don’t hate anyone but keep assholes away (sorry for my language) but we all know there are some in our lives.
5. Be selfish at times – The longer you say selfless and keep slogging the more people exploit you. SO the moment you feel, your body and mind needs rest – do give it . Your life is precious.
6. Be gentle yet STRONG, Be nice but don’t be gullible , Care for others but for your own self too.
7. Don’t push yourself too hard for too long and wait for the world to end before you react – you are a human being too.
8. STOP working day in and out on cost of your health ! Nothing in the world can give your health and time back once lost.

Honestly speaking, I was feeling very low when I began to write this post but now for some reason I am better, perhaps that’s the power of expressing – DO express your feelings, in whichever way you want to.

I really pray and hope you all pass through this quarantine season well and the world becomes a better place again but until then, please do take care of yourself – remember you are irreplaceable for the ones who love you.

Loads of love to you all and thanks for your patience and reading it all the way till end 🙂

Take Care
-Neha Sharma