Am I too loud or too meak ?

Hello My Lovely Readers,

I am back again with you all, doing one of the things I feel is the best to express the deepest of my thoughts. Also, another reason why I prefer writing is, whatever I write here isn’t imposed but You who’s reading this post right now , actually feels, that this post is worth your time in this fast paced journey of life and so I am BLESSED to have you as my reader 🙂

Back to the topic want to write about or rather discuss. Are you also the one who is confused if you are too loud or too meak ? Do you want to know what my take on it is? If you want to know what’s my ideology on keeping the balance, please keep reading .

So I used to be an introvert child who won’t share easily what’s going on inside so easily but always wanted to speak about things which weren’t right or rather say Unfair to one – be it taking side of my friends in front of teachers(for whom I was a favorite but ended up being scolded by them for doing it 😀 ) or my younger sibling in front of my parents.
Never had a big group of friends because for me a friend is much more than with whom we just hang around. I still remember this friend of mine (she still is) going against her own sister to favor me and even got beating from teacher in school for me 🙂 – This for me is what a real friendship is, where I was standing in every thick and thin of hers and she did the same too.

Gradually I realized, how important aspect of one’s personality it is to be vocal – about the things which are right, fair and justified and so I came out of that shell I had around me of being an introvert. I started to react, speak it out louder than before and telling when it’s not fair and retrospect myself too.
But when you start to speak up in strong voice specially if you’re a woman you invite a lot of raised eyebrows and people start to tag you as too blunt, aggressive, egoistic (may be) . It’s then when the question comes “AM I TOO LOUD OT TOO MEAK” ? You want to know my approach to this, keep going on.

So the answer is- The perfect balance of being not too loud or too meak is if you do the following –

1. Raise your voice against injustice, bias, and wrong deeds no matter who is at stake.
2. Have a justifiable stand of your own in public – be it your family, friends, office, unknowns
3. Put forth your point in the most logical way possible and with the concrete reasoning as why you feel so without being judgmental , critic without a cause, about others.
4. Don’t indulge in fights/bitching/blame-games just to satisfy your ego in front of others however inside you know you’re wrong. This doesn’t make you strong if you just prove your point to the other person despite of knowing you’re wrong.
5. Use your words wisely for the betterment of others, appreciating people and not for bullying, pulling someone down, shaming, calling names – big NO NO.

Being a woman, I know how important it is to be vocal yet reasonable but unfortunately I don’t see many women doing it around me for various reasons and when I find such women I am naturally attracted to their personality and that’s the reason in all my social accounts , the women I follow, all of them have a spunk in them, they are all strong ones, vocal ones , women who have their stand and have concrete reasons to back it. I am more oriented towards women in these last statements as I always feel it’s our women who need to adapt these things because men are already vocal and dominant(just for fun) 😀

To sum it up, I would say Being Balanced is when you don’t fear of talking about your stand in public without pulling others down and can back your statements by valid pointers which any sensible and unbiased person would get. On the same time, you aren’t someone who’s fighting for everything without reasons – that’s no feminism.

What is your version of “Being balanced ” ? Please tell me in comments 🙂

Hope you enjoyed reading it. if you haven’t followed my social handles yet(Instagram, YouTube, Facebook), please do that as you get some fun content there.

-Signing Off
Neha Sharma

I am TOUGH, but is that enough ????

Hey Readers,

Hope you guys are doing good and staying healthy.

Do you people ever feel very low and feel like giving up? Well, that’s something that happens when you have been strong for very long, but guess what you need to tell yourself at that very moment ? – “Just hang in there a little more, you are STRONG” !!!!

But is that enough???? Keep reading to know !!!

It won’t be wrong to say, that it’s my mental state as on today while I am writing it, when it has been more than a month and I haven’t stepped out because of Corona Virus outbreak just like you all. I have been doing all household chores (most of them on my own) , handling critical official meetings, managing my 3 years old while taking up the calls – Imagine bathing your kid and attending an official call simultaneously , trying to grow my new venture (my new YouTube channel) and putting so much efforts recording the videos, posting them etc. I don’t have a very solid support system – I stay very far from my parents and it’s been 2 years I met them.

Because of this overwhelming emotional, mental and physical pressure, many a times I felt like losing my cool but I kept pushing myself hard – on cost of my heath and peace, every single day I apply some muscle relieving gel on my back and think I wont work this hard again but next morning I am again pushing myself – WHY ? Because I am that kind of person who doesn’t want her loved ones to work harder and keeps on slogging herself. Result of which is – this volcano eruption that happens within you and you feel like collapsing.

I have realized and so wanted to pen it down for all you working girls/wives/mothers –

1. No matter what don’t work too hard constantly for long or try to keep all your pain inside.
2. Give yourself a break because nobody else gives a damn when you get hurt, it’s your body that pains nobody else feels it.
3. Speak to your favorite people and calm yourself down
4. Don’t hate anyone but keep assholes away (sorry for my language) but we all know there are some in our lives.
5. Be selfish at times – The longer you say selfless and keep slogging the more people exploit you. SO the moment you feel, your body and mind needs rest – do give it . Your life is precious.
6. Be gentle yet STRONG, Be nice but don’t be gullible , Care for others but for your own self too.
7. Don’t push yourself too hard for too long and wait for the world to end before you react – you are a human being too.
8. STOP working day in and out on cost of your health ! Nothing in the world can give your health and time back once lost.

Honestly speaking, I was feeling very low when I began to write this post but now for some reason I am better, perhaps that’s the power of expressing – DO express your feelings, in whichever way you want to.

I really pray and hope you all pass through this quarantine season well and the world becomes a better place again but until then, please do take care of yourself – remember you are irreplaceable for the ones who love you.

Loads of love to you all and thanks for your patience and reading it all the way till end 🙂

Take Care
-Neha Sharma

Thought for the night !

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Hey You awesome readers there,

It’s been so long since I have posted anything, have been occupied with some other exciting tasks off late.

So today I am posting a motivational thought of the night –

“No Matter where you stood yesterday, how much you have grown and achieved is all that’s important.
The important thing in your life is to GROW !

– By none other than @therealnehasharma ( 😉 haha that’s my Instagram handle just to remind you that if you haven’ followed me there, JUST DO IT 😀

Love Ya
Neha

Sick days – How you can feel better

Hello Readers,

This post is about those not-so good days when we fall ill and start to feel low.
The reason I am writing this post is I am kinda gong through this phase currently and know the feel. I am a very lively and super hyperactive person who always have to do something or the other. This is the reason along with my full time job and taking care of a 3 year old, I manage to take some time out and do what I like the most – expressing my thoughts and which place could have been better than my very own blog, where I am already getting lot of love from lovely readers like you all.
I try to remain positive in most difficult times also and very consciously try to convince myself “all is well” 😀 . I’ll share with you all, how I try to feel better even in tough times – sick days or other challenging phases.

Trick your brain – The moment you run into difficult phase like having some major health issues etc. , first thing that happens is you start feeling low which is very obvious but you need to tell yourself, it’s temporary and you’ll get over it soon. I won’t say that you’ll start feeling well immediately because yes, you are ailing and it would take time before you get over it BUT tricking your brain would surely boost your morale.

Divert yourself – When you’re down with health issues, look for the ways to divert yourself and do what you like doing the most – reading a book,watching your favorite movie or possibly anything you love. When I was down with cold, fever n severe body ache, I was capturing snaps for my product reviews 😛

Take a break – We all have some professional commitments and I know many of us (at least I do so) keep pushing ourselves so our jobs/tasks aren’t affected much but let me tell you if you don’t give your body the break it deserves, it’ll force you do so and the day it chooses might not be the one you would like.

Hang on there – Ok, so the statement I am gonna write, might sound philosophical to you but trust me it’s not a copied one from some book or movie but I have experienced it always. “The moment you are at peak of your issues, your better time starts right from there”. Trust me, it happens, whenever I feel I am going through the worst and I can’t bear it anymore, it starts improving.

You are always tougher than you thought you were ! Whenever I feel ridiculed by my health or issues, I just put my lipstick on , look myself in the mirror and tell myself – you are unstoppable 😉

Hope you liked this post, how do you get over your difficult days? Please share your thoughts in Comments section.
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Stay healthy and beautiful !

Love Love
-Neha

Do You NEED That Vacation/Car?

Heya ,

Hope you guys are doing great as usual. This blog is about the how you can spend smart and what all to consider before actually shelling out money. Well, if you are coming to my page for the first time, I would suggest keep reading till the end ( my posts are not lengthy and boring mostly 😂 ). If you are a follower of my page, then you already know what to do 😉

Recently, I came across a WhatsApp forwarded message and it actually made sense. The message was about how the financial situation of families are degrading these days and I couldn’t agree more. However I try to restrict myself (not always though 😛) from spending under influence. But I try and improving every day to spend wiser. I will discuss few points which I feel are really making things go worse for many of us.

  1. Vacations under social pressure – I am sure if not everyone, many have done it at least once. Before you decide to spend those extra bucks on “your” vacation, stop for a minute and think – Do you actually need that vacation or it is just for the sake of some pictures on Facebook/Whatsapp/Instagram or may be because your “friends” are travelling and you thought it’d be fun. Everyone like to post pictures on their social media including me but are you spending heck of money just for the sake of it? Then it’s not worth. If you actually feel, YOU need that vacation then every penny is worth but if that’s not the case, don’t fall prey of societal pressure – waste of hard earned money!
  2. Buying stuff for status symbol -Be it a luxury car or some small stuff that your friend is using and you want to show off buying that, stop for a minute and think – is it a necessity? I remember when I bought my first car how much time we spent , making sure that it’s worth the cost based on our needs being fulfilled by that model and I still find myself (and of course my husband 😜) wise to have decided for the one we have.
  3. Grand Family Functions – okay, so I feel I have been there, wasting lot of hard earned money of my parents but honestly, I was too young to understand that back then. There was lot of money spent/wasted on my wedding because this was the first big function of my family where all friends/relatives were involved, though everyone who attended it (including every single person from my husband’s big family) was going gaga over the arrangement and function BUT I feel, that was the very hard earned money of my mom and dad which was spent like anything and if only I was little matute back then, could have saved. Lavish weddings, birthday parties or any other family function – aren’t these celebrations for our own selves and not for the society to give approval of how grand it was. Think before you spend, does that extra firework you plan is actually needed? Or that extra expensive caterer/decorators/flowerist etc etc – can’t you save a lot money there? Spend wisely.
  4. Being brand savvy – Each one of us have a financial background. I might be earning way less than my friend and without giving a second thought, if I start buying the stuff that he/she owns – I would end up bankrupt. Just think about it, celebrities who spend more than your salary on their lifestyle – can you copy that? Very clearly No then why your friend whose financial status is better than you. I myself am a big shopaholic, BUT I make sure I spend in proportion to how much I earn, not based on my credit card limit 😆

There are many other such pointers which can be a part of this article but those are not impactful, like eating out, parlours etc but I feel if you work hard to earn that money, you must spend little on yourself so not even mentioning all such pointers in this post.

Spend, in accordance to your salary, not to impress your friends/society.

I try to keep my posts shorter however I wrote a lot in this one 😛. Hope this was worth your time.

Stay tuned and don’t forget to follow my blog/Instagram, if you haven’t already ☺. Please share your thoughts in comments section.

Much Love

Neha

Be who you actually are

Hello Fabulous People,

First of all, thanks and love to you all, who like my blog and posts and show their love constantly on my posts. Nothing can bring more happiness to a new blogger like me than seeing such intellect people like you all liking my not so perfect work 🙂

Coming back to the topic, I wanted to write about in this post.

Who are you ?
-The one your neighbors know ?
-The one your relatives know?
-The one your friends know?
-The one the society, you live in, knows?

If you ask me, I am the one who I actually am – FOR EVERYONE.

It may look cliche but for me, if you have different versions of yourself for different people around you then end of the day it’s you who is under burden of behaving differently with different people.
I would rather be myself and perhaps being hated than being someone else and being desired for.

I see people who are under so much pressure just to prove others that they are desired, even though in reality, the ones who they show them as their friends are none other than the ones who bitches most about them and would not even be there in their hard times. I just don’t understand WHY. What kind of peace does it bring?
I would rather have just one friend who stands by me , instead of being with a bunch of people who don’t even care if I am fine.

Social media (though I am very much active on social media), does make things go worse. Everyone is so desperate to “look happy” on their Facebook/Instagram/Whatsapp etc. etc. that they don’t even understand the very fact that they aren’t actually happy inside and it’s all fake on their social accounts.
People don’t even want to talk about their issues and so much under pressure to prove others’ that their life is Oh So Perfect ! But deep down, only they know if what they display is actually true or not.
Ok, so when I was young I used to worry a lot, trying hard to hide my failures,issues, problems reason being – what others would think about it? what if they judge me? what if they mock at me? wouldn’t it impact my image ? and many more such insecurities. As I am growing older and WISER 😉 , I understand it doesn’t matter what my relatives/society/neighbors/mates think of me as long as I am HAPPY inside.
Being happy for me, is way more important than “look happy” on my social account.

Did you ever think why the “celebrities” are so open in talking about their issues – be it depression they have undergone once, issues with their health or problems in their marriages or anything else?
Because they are known for their good work, and are hardly affected by how the society judge them. There would always be people posting nasty things about them on their social accounts but do they give a damn about it? or to better put it in this way – do they even get time to have a look at those mean comments there? NO ! Because they are busy doing good for themselves rather than concentrating what the commoners – whose own life might suck, are writing while sitting in a small room, hiding behind their computer screen, are writing.
I was always conscious about what someone would say/write about me in public etc etc, but today I don’t care anymore. I don’t allow people to interfere with my peace. If I have issues, I don’t fear talking about those, I am never under pressure to make things look perfect when they actually aren’t. Life is a journey and we do make mistakes, learn and grow. Nobody’s life is a bed of roses and the harder you try to prove it is, the more frustrated you become inside.

Don’t pretend to be someone else, Be Yourself – I know this might give a feel of a Cliche but trust me, once you reach this maturity level, you would be the happiest.

Don’t try so hard to look happy ,to look desired, to prove yourself the best, to perfect everything is perfect – Be Happy, Be yourself and the ones who can connect will love you for what you are, look beyond the imperfections , embrace the issues and work to come over those.

Love more !

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-Much Love
Neha

Moms

Hello Reader,

This post is dedicated to all of us, moms. Before I even start writing it, just wanted to clear it’s neither a feminist post nor do I intend to prove men any inferior. I myself have been taken care of, by my dad when I was young as my mom is a working woman and she was working in a different city back then, taking care of my younger sister who was just an year old or so. And so I have HUGE RESPECT for him, not just coz he’s my father but because taking care of such a small kid single handedly while taking care of his job would have not been easy.

As they say “God couldn’t be everywhere and so he created mothers”. Now when I am a mom of 3 years old hansome boy, I know being a mom isn’t easy and how much sacrifice a mom does for her kid. A mom is the one who carries the child for whole 9 months while sufferring from pregnancy’s issues – be it nausea, vomiting, dizziness and numerous others, goes through the unbearable pain of labor and then delivery, even before recovering from her own pain, starts taking care of the new life, goes through postpartum depression (many don’t even know there’s a real thing called postpartum depression), her body changes like anything due to pregnancy and delivery, and the list just goes on and on.

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This image might look funny but we all, who have been there, know how painful it is. No matter how sick a mom is, she still would always be there, doing everything without even complaining.God also chose women to bear children for this very reason I am sure 😄 – and SO MUMS 😊

Coming back to the men, least you could do is helping out your partner in taking care of the child who she carried and delivered, only so he/she be known as “your child”. You can’t carry the child in your womb, but you can take care of your ailing wife, be faithful to her, be there for her.You can’t breastfeed the child but you can stay up calming the crying kid while the new mom who’s struggling with her own health could sleep for few hours. You can take care of the child when your wife is sick so she doesn’t struggle. There are numerous such small tasks that you NEED TO take care of.

I yearn to see more dads like mine 🙂 . Huge repect to the community of men who understand and help their wives with houlsehold chores or children !

Be good, KARMA pays off !

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Love you all !!

-Neha